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Do You Hold Back? Blind Spot #8

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From the Author of Speak Up, Show Up, and Stand Out & Fearless Leadership

This is the eighth of 10 blind spots that may be sabotaging your effectiveness.

 

Blind Spot #8—Withholding Emotional Commitment. What it Means.    

Just because you commit intellectually doesn’t mean you’re emotionally committed.

Withholding emotional commitment means that you go along with a decision but you’re not passionate about it.  Your heart and mind are not fully engaged.

 

The Downside of Committing with Your Head but Not Your Heart  

You know the difference between a lackluster commitment (where you go through the motions but you’re not on board) versus an “all-in” commitment (where your heart and head are completely engaged).

Your attitude shows up in your actions.

When you are merely complying, you publicly agree but you withhold your support and undermine your team and organization.  People lose confidence and write-you off.  In their eyes you’re weak, wishy-washy: You lack the strength to take an unrelenting stand and make firm “all-in” commitments.  High achievement is not in your future.

 

Do YOU Withhold Your Emotional Commitment?   

Ask others to assess your behavior using the scale of 1 (rarely) to 5 (frequently).

Blind Spot #8

How do you rate?

32 to 40:    You comply, withhold your enthusiasm, and your follow-through sucks. People lose confidence in you.  What’s stopping you from fully committing?

17 to 31:    You vacillate from full support to ho-hum support. People don’t know where you stand. Get clear on what you want and only agree if you are willing to go the distance.

8 to 16:       People can count on you to be all-in.  Continue to work on being crystal clear about where you stand.

Want More?

Read the book Fearless Leadership and the anti-blogs on the 10 Blind Spots.

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Dr. Loretta Malandro is the CEO of the Malandro Consulting Group (www.malandro.com) and the author of several landmark business communication books including: Fearless Leadership, Say It Right the First Time, and her new book, “Speak Up, Show Up, and Stand Out: The 9 Communication Rules You Need to Succeed”.

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Do You Conspire against Others? Blind Spot #7

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This is the seventh of 10 blind spots that may be sabotaging your effectiveness.

 

Blind Spot #7—Conspiring Against Others. What it Means   

Conspiring is a strong but necessary word when it comes to describing this lethal blind spot.

People who conspire against others: 1) Actively participate in negative conversations about an individual/group that is not present, 2) Silently endorse negative comments about others by not speaking up, or 3) Attack others’ credibility which raises suspicions.

The Downside of Building Silos and Camps 

Do you participate in deadly water-cooler conversations?  Do you silently endorse nasty attacks on others?  Do you influence others to agree with your negative viewpoint?

If you engage in conspiracies—actively or passively—you are on a guaranteed path of destruction. People will view you as a snake and shun you. Even your co-conspirators—the people who agree with you—will not trust you.  They know you will throw them under the bus in a moment and they’re correct.

You’ll lose it all—friends, trust, job promotions.

 

Do YOU Conspire against Others?   

Ask others to assess your behavior using the scale of 1 (rarely) to 5 (frequently).

Malandro Blind Spot 7

How do you rate?

32 to 40:    You are profoundly hurt, disappointed, and/or angry and it’s showing in your behavior.  Stop! You are self-destructing.

17 to 31:    Sometimes you’re good; sometimes you’re horrid. Do you want this reputation? Apologize and get on a constructive path.

8 to 16:       You steer clear of negative conversations.  But do you stand up for others?

Want More?

Read the book Fearless Leadership and the anti-blogs on the 10 Blind Spots.

Anti Blog

 

Dr. Loretta Malandro is the CEO of the Malandro Consulting Group (www.malandro.com) and the author of several landmark business communication books including: Fearless Leadership, Say It Right the First Time, and her new book, “Speak Up, Show Up, and Stand Out: The 9 Communication Rules You Need to Succeed”.